EPISODES 51 - 60
Episode Fifty-One: No is a Complete Sentence
In this episode, I am going to explore why a certain two letter word used to get stuck in my throat.
As a child of narcissistic parents, NO really wasn’t an option. In my mind, that would lead to more rejection, more arguments and more alienation. However, once I realised that I was on this emotional rollercoaster ride ALONE, I knew that I had to speak up and stand up for myself. I had to have my own back.
I can’t put a finger on exactly when there was a HUGE shift in my thinking. It was gradual and took many years…which included many tears, much heartache, endless conversations, serious disappointment and TONS OF LOSS.
I can now say - wholeheartedly - that NO is a complete sentence. I hope you can come to the same conclusion…in your own time…in your own way.
Learn to say NO. Full stop.
Released on 19th October 2025
Episode Fifty-Two: Nowhere is Safe
Narcissistic parents often choose to cross, ignore or erase one boundary…the EMOTIONAL boundary…and that is one too many. They do everything in their power to engage in emotional warfare. As the parent, they know their child’s weaknesses all too well, so will be sure to choose their words carefully…pushing as many buttons and pulling as many heartstrings as possible.
My mind was the first boundary that was non-existent for my mom. But, she didn’t stop there. She didn’t acknowledge boundaries AT ALL, becoming what I call a ‘free range parent.’
In her sick and twisted brain, my mind AND body were her property. For me and me alone, nowhere was safe.
Crossing emotional boundaries was/is bad enough. But, choosing to cross, ignore and erase all boundaries has left me with more scars than I can count.
Released on 2nd November 2025
Episode Fifty-Three: It’s Time to Flip It
I know many people who detest swearing. I’m not one of them. I don’t swear to intentionally offend, upset or embarrass someone. But, I believe there are far uglier, more offensive and degrading words than the ones in my pirate vocabulary.
One of the nastiest words - in my opinion - isn’t even a four letter word. It has five letters.
SHAME.
I carried that word and everything that goes with it, like a rucksack filled with rocks, for the majority of my life. That load was HEAVY!
The good news is that I don’t carry it anymore. When I realised (and believed) that all of that stuff happened TO me…not BECAUSE of me…I could finally take off the rucksack of shame. My rejoicing doesn’t end there. I have gone one giant leap further. I decided to flip it! I now say, out loud and with conviction,
“SHAME ON YOU!”
Go on! Say it! Place the blame and shame where it rightfully belongs. They aren’t yours to carry.