EPISODES 61 - 70
Episode Sixty-One: Bitten by a Snake
Living in the UK comes with its perks. Sunshine isn’t one of them (haha). But, knowing that I will never encounter a venomous snake is a perk that I appreciate, even though I don’t often think about it. I can’t say the same about the narcissists in my life. Their bites - both poisonous and repetitive - happen anytime and anywhere.
Unlike most people in the wild, children of narcissists aren’t just thinking/worrying about ONE snake or ONE bite. No such luck! We are wondering when the NEXT bite is coming. For a huge chunk of our lives, we had to live in the snake’s den. Moving out and/or away, however, doesn’t ensure a safe surrounding.
We must learn to live with the ‘bites and poison,’ along with the scars that are left behind. At the same time, we can learn to focus on the healing. Yes, it’s hard and painful, but it is incredibly liberating as well.
Once you have identified the snake(s) in your life, you have choices to make. Try not to chase the snake. I had to learn that lesson the hard way. Focus on the healing. You deserve to live a happy and snake-free life.
Released on 8th March 2026
Episode Sixty-Two: Chalk and Cheese
Why have I chosen the saying, “We’re like chalk and cheese “ for this episode, you ask? Because it is the best way to describe the stark differences between a narcissistic parent and child. This is a British idiom used to describe two things or people that are COMPLETELY different despite perhaps looking similar.
On the outside, we both look like humans. But, on the inside, we are chalk and cheese. Chalk is messy, so the narcissists are chalk in this case.
It’s a tricky one, I know. As narcissists can charm the socks off of anyone, many people are unable (or unwilling) to see their ‘chalky characteristics.’ Having said that, very few people would have known that I had been living with narcissistic parents unless I told them.
Suffice it to say, I have no problem seeing, identifying and pointing out the obvious differences. In this episode, I share many of them. Please don’t judge a book by its cover. The chalk is in there. Believe me. I know.
Released on 22nd March 2026
Episode Sixty-Three: There’s No Place Like Home
So…if I told you that the title of this episode is, “There’s No Place Like Home,” would you close your eyes, click your heels together three times and hope for the best like Dorothy in the “Wizard of Oz”? I am quite fortunate. If I did that, I wouldn’t go anywhere. I am already home.
I can relate to Dorothy for many reasons. Here are some of them:
1. I survived a sh*t storm (or life tornado)
2. I ended up somewhere I never expected
3. I found and created a whole new family
4. I made it safely home
Actually, for the past 33 years, I could happily and proudly say, ‘I am home.’ Although I appreciate the four walls around me, home is much deeper than that. For me, home means…
I am safe.
I am loved.
I belong.
There truly is no place like home.
Released on 5th April 2026
Episode Sixty-Five: Dear Daughter Part 2 - A Love Letter
This love letter may sound different to any you have heard before and that’s okay. This is the only “Dear Daughter” letter I will ever receive, so I poured my whole heart into it.
I imagined myself having a raw, honest, heartfelt conversation with younger me…but…younger me will change, age and transform as the conversation continues.
Once you have listened to my love letter, I encourage you to do the same. Pick up a pen and paper. Don’t erase. Don’t cross out. Just let the thoughts pour out and be as honest as you can. You don’t have to share it with anyone. That’s your choice. Sometimes, seeing your story in black and white reminds you what you’ve been through and, more importantly, how far you’ve come.
Survival is exhausting. Trauma is debilitating. So, many of us don’t make time to have these heartfelt conversations with ourselves. I get it. This stuff is hard and ugly and painful. Do yourself a favour. Include all of the good stuff too…like your courage, your hope, your positivity, your good choices, your brave choices.
You did the work. You’re doing the work.
Be proud.
I see you. I see a daughter who dares.
Released on 3rd May 2026
Episode Sixty-Four: Dear Daughter Part 1 - The Struggle Is Real
In this episode, I discuss one of the biggest struggles of children raised by narcissists…the struggle for self-love. Although the struggle is real, it does not mean it is impossible or that we are incapable of loving ourselves. Quite the opposite is true. Narcissists do their best to control or manipulate everything, including our self-worth and self-confidence, but they don’t get to define who we are or who we become.
Remember, just like lists of side effects or symptoms of medications or conditions, the lists I provide are just that…suggested lists. You may relate to one, some, none or all.
No matter the number, we can safely say and agree that the struggle for self-love is REAL. In spite of that and in spite of them, we can choose to become happy, hopeful people who love the incredible human beings we have become.
Released on 19th April 2026
Episode Sixty-Six: OH…THE ABSOLUTE IRONY!
As I have said in a previous episode, “Keep your receipts!” Receipts come in all shapes and sizes. Some look like damning letters or nasty texts, while others look like a harmless, thoughtful, sincere anniversary card. Looks are deceiving!
(as are those who sent it)
For those in the know, that Hallmark receipt is anything but harmless, thoughtful or sincere. It’s merely a security deposit for my narcissistic parents. They need to keep up appearances for all who ask. It’s important that they can answer, “We send anniversary cards every year. We do our best to stay in touch.”
Oh…the absolute irony!
In the past, picking up that envelope would have ruined my day, sent me down a rabbit hole and reduced me to tears.
Not anymore! Now, it serves a purpose. Now, I see it for what it really is…validation.
It reminds me that I’m not crazy…they are!